Potty Training time at 27 months

Writing this so I won’t forget! It has been almost 2 weeks of hits and misses and a whole lot of exhaustion!

Some say wait until they’re ready / show signs of readiness. Some say it will come. Some say when the parent is ready, they will be ready. Montessori studies show sensitivity to potty training at 15-18 months.

I was all for getting ready at 2 years old but also waiting it out until Greyson probably reaches 3. But by the time he reaches that age, we may be busier by then so I was committed to train him ASAP.

By the time he reached 2, I started buying undies and we started wearing them over diapers though not consistently. I also bought a book on using the potty which we read a lot until he didn’t want to read it anymore. 😹

Last week I asked Grey if he wanted diapers/briefs, he said briefs! Yay was this a sign? 😂

Then came a lot of “accidents!” After a week of experimenting 😆 I sought the help of mommy friends for tips and encouragement from my sister and read up.

Why do I always troubleshoot and learn through experience 🤦🏼‍♀️

Based on articles, you can potty train in 3 days. You just have to be diligent in observing your child and look for cues. Also call it a “miss” when they pee / do the other on the floor as they just missed the potty. It’s not their responsibility but ours as parents.

Some tips that worked for us are

1. Offer liquids often.

2. After 20 minutes, invite them to the potty and wait for them to pee. (I do ssh shh sounds to initiate 😂)

3. When todder looks like he’s about to poop (mine is being quiet and still / hiding) invite calmly to the toilet. (We use a toddler toilet seat to place on top of the regular one)

4. I usually urge him 😂 and do some sounds. Grey didn’t like sitting on the toilet and whenever I go out he would call me. I thought that he preferred pooping on his own but he wanted someone to be in the bathroom with him. 🤷‍♀️ I waited around 10-12 minutes and got him off the toilet. When he starts again, I put him on again and wait.

Some moms suggest reading a book / posting animal pictures / fun pictures on the walls to keep them entertained inside while waiting.

5. Repeat #1-4 until they get it. 😂

We are 2 days in and so far successful with Grey overcoming his “ilang” while sitting on the toilet and doing #2 there.

For peeing there are times of “missing” but I know he is getting the concept and the feeling of wet-ness. During nap times though and at night we still use diapers – this is going to be a different training or next level which I’m not ready for my sanity yet of cleaning a wet bed. 😹

In the first week I experienced lots of misses and had to wash soiled undies 🥴🥵 Sometimes I got upset while cleaning and was muttering under my breath. When I calmed down I apologized to Grey and told him it’s normal to have misses. It’s my fault I wasn’t watching. Took a lot of reframing and praying to be patient as we went through the day but here we are. Not quite there yet 😂 But moving forward with small wins!

In the 2nd week, fueled by encouragement and tips, cues were spotted and anticipated and also with Daddy J on board. This really takes dedication 😆 It seems so easy but training takes time and a lot of effort. How I wish I could say I’m enjoying this stage – this is probably my least favorite.

But whenever there’s a moment I can hear myself think, I search within how this season will pass so quickly. I remember how he looks down at the floor saying “weewee”. How he gets a mat and helps wipe his miss / the mess. His calling me when I slip out of the bathroom. His needing me to sit down with him by the potty. It will soon be past. Our baby who’s no longer a baby but will soon be a little boy.

Learning to unlearn

27 months in and I thought our routine would stay as is. But it seems as if Grey also got bored with it. MWF – Alphabets, shapes, numbers. T-THs – Mandarin numbers, colors and conversational phrases. Seemed promising… NOT. When you’re dealing with a toddler who’s so eager and absorbent you can’t confine them to just those!

There was a week wherein I would teach some numbers and he threw them all on the floor. Not just bored but upset as well! He saw through all of it and that I was feeding him some things he’s not really into yet.

After a few days of numbers, he was able to identify them but it was a struggle. I guess this is how it looks like if you’re not “following the child’s pace and learning” and trying to give him info he’s disinterested in!

So I was led to ease up and watch him play again and in his natural state.

You know how it’s so hard to unlearn things you grew up knowing? How most of us are wired to have the goal of doing good in academics as if that were the most important thing!

As a mom and with an only child whom we’ve waited for a while, I felt like I had a responsibility and duty to teach him and I can’t do it just watching him. I can’t stay still! I had to be super pro active and teach teach teach.

But Reading The Whole Brained Child and also desiring to be obedient to Christ, it is slowly sinking in that intellect is just one aspect. There is also emotional, spiritual. Character building. Learning to love learning.

Instead of getting praises for knowing his abc’s or numbers. We search and look beyond.

Values such as hardwork, resilience, thoughtfulness, patience, love, kindness, gratefulness. It’s hard to unlearn what we’ve learned but anything is possible with God.

And there is proactiveness too in being still, observing your child, and trusting in God that He will give us the wisdom on how to raise Grey.

After easing up a bit on his 27th month and focusing on his interests like playing with rice (for sensory), pouring water over and over, I saw how this was satisfying for him at this moment and how he can play for an hour or so.

Then after which he got a paper and crayon. He started drawing and naming what he’s drawing – A triangle, Circle ⭕️, letter G (for Greyson), P, H. t. Somewhere during playing, his mind was probably processing lots of information and he wanted to write it. I have to admit I was so proud! But I have to remind myself to also acknowledge and emphasize other character developments in him. Like how he’s generous, offering snacks and fruits he likes and even feeding us (thinking about others). How he apologizes when he loses his temper and gets gigil and hurts. How he rejoices with others and sees them having fun. His honesty! He would tell us, Greyson feel angry again.

Oh how do we unlearn what we’ve learned?

Jason taught me.. It’s not study time it’s what are we going to learn today?

In a seminar, it’s not reading it’s comprehending what you read.

It’s not being the best, it’s doing your best.

What are things that you want to unlearn and how can we reframe it?

*For routine, our mealtime, nap and sleep time stays as is. but activities… whatever Greyson seems interested in at the moment!